It is very hard coming back to the ordinary world after a sublime retreat. A retreat should change a person, and I am somewhat pleased with some change. But, what is most important is that I come back again realizing the great gift of the Benedictine Rule for the Church. St. Benedict's Rule seems to allow for a variety of gifts and backgrounds instead of insisting on sameness among the women. At the convent where I was on retreat, I met many nuns from widely different backgrounds and stations in life. This variety of gifts, and even nationalities creates a rich tapestry of talents and character.
However, the Rule transcends differences by being both flexible and "strict" in certain areas. I personally think that the balance of work and prayer allows for a healthy atmosphere.
Benedictines truly live in community. The communal life opens up opportunities for development and growth. The "extrovert" and delightful guest mistress told me that when she entered in her thirties, she was very timid. Out of obedience, she was asked to be the guest mistress, which is a hugely active role in a community which opens its doors to perpetual adoration, Mass, the hours and retreats.
Some commentators have labelled the Rule as "moderate". In 2012, most people would see such a life-style as extreme.
Having a Benedictine heart, I love the pace of the monastic day and the balance of prayer, service, and work. I think one would have to be a little bit hyper-active to be a Benedictine.
There is always work. Here is a section from Chapter 72:
Just as there is an evil zeal of bitterness
which separates from God and leads to hell,
so there is a good zeal
which separates from vices and leads to God
and to life everlasting.
This zeal, therefore, the sisters should practice
with the most fervent love.
Thus they should anticipate one another in honor (Rom. 12:10);
most patiently endure one another's infirmities,
whether of body or of character;
vie in paying obedience one to another --
no one following what she considers useful for herself,
but rather what benefits another -- ;
tender the charity of sisterhood chastely;
fear God in love;
love their Abbess with a sincere and humble charity;
prefer nothing whatever to Christ.
And may He bring us all together to life everlasting!