Here are some points for my traditionally minded lady-friends.
One, obedience is done not merely for social or family order or compliance, although it helps that, but for "the love of God".
Two, obedience is the adult power for choosing interior and eternal life, not merely for being accepted.
Three, obedience leads to humility.
Four, obedience leads to a submission to God's Will-if one can give up one's will in small things, God will allow one to learn to give up in large areas for greater sanctification.
Five, obedience can lead to a totally Christ-centred life.
The key, of course, is to marry a holy man who respects you and lives according to his role as Protector and Guide in the family