One of the things wrong with continually looking at and complaining about the abuses in the Church is that it focuses our attention on evil. We must focus our attention of Good, Who Is God.
Focusing on Christ is the job of the Christian. When we focus on Christ, even in days of suffering, we are practicing the virtues of faith, hope and love. Hope, especially, is honed in suffering.
Hope is believing in what we do not see.
If we cannot see success or even goodness in a situation, we can hope that good will come out of evil.
By constantly looking at evil, we become despondent and can even lose our way on the road to perfection.
By looking at the Beloved, we become like Him we adore.
By concentrating on evil, we glorify evil rather than good.
The center of our lives should be the Good.
From Colossians 4:4-7
5 Conduct yourselves wisely toward outsiders, making the most of the time.[a] 6 Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer everyone.