John 12:24
New Revised Standard Version Catholic Edition (NRSVCE)
24 Very truly, I tell you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains just a single grain; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.
Dying to self means DEATH to the ego.
Dying to self means not getting one's way.
Dying to self means giving up dreams and plans.
Dying to self means not using one's talents and gifts.
Dying to self means not carrying what other people think.
Dying to self means giving up memory, understanding and will.
Dying to self means completely trusting in God and His Divine Providence.
Dying to self means conforming one's mind to the mind of the Church, which is the Mind of Christ.