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Friday, 21 February 2014

Fascinating Discussion on Twitter

    1. I agree that it's different to 1917, but the parallel is problematic. Would mean all in grave sin could theoretically receive.
    2. The canon actually states that the subject must be in "periculum mortis".
    3. Your Eminence: can this be an equivalent? Protestants must be in danger of death for this to apply (c. 844 §4)

  1. Check again. I believe wording = if deprived of ministration of own Church for a long time!?
  2. Absolutely, but only “in periculo mortis” or “grave necessity” - i.e., deprived by means of war, prison, &c.
  3. "Grave" can also mean a serious need of the grace of the sacraments!
  4. I looked into this some time ago and I believe interpretation of grave comes down to local ordinary?
  5. I believe it is determined by the episcopal conference or the diocesan bishop (not just local ordinary).
  6. from memory I believe there was such a clarification in Spain.

I love young people, but some do not.................

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Tuesday, 17 January 2012

A Counter-Terrorist Named Barbie

Now, a disclaimer. I never played with Barbie and her friends. I had 
twenty-two dolls, (I was the only girl), and I duly baptized them all with 
the tap water, (and, I must admit, with holy water), and named them 
such late 1950s names as Cynthia, Daphne, MaryRose, Katy-Jane, Kimberley, Karen, Donna, and so on, unless they had names, like Shirley Temple, and my pre-Disney story-book dolls, Snow White, Rose Red, Sleeping Beauty, etc.

Barbie was not my thing. However, Barbie may become the iconic counter-terrorist for this site. Again, according to the keen Robert Spencer, she 
has been banned in Tehran. This is at least the second time Barbie has 
been made into an infidel doll. I can understand her appeal to very young ladies--the fake American dream of too-perfect figure, blond hair and trendy clothes-- the princess doll syndrome.

However, it is too much that Barbie is again labelled as a symbol of Western decadence. Well, maybe, in a 
strange way, she is, but I know lovely women in convents, traditional Catholic women, who were not as 
counter-cultural at the age of eight as I was, who loved their Barbies. Sigh, the only thing I really wanted for 
MaryRose and Karen was the pink vintage Barbie Austin Healey, but my dolls, all baptized and full of doll grace, 
would probably have not wanted to be caught dead in a Barbie car....

Daphne was rescued by one of my brothers from a pretend high-rise fire on my dad's recliner by a very large metal firetruck. She rode away perched on top of the ladder as my brother saved her, but that is not quite the same thing as moving in style in a pink vintage Austin Healey. Maybe this is what Tehran fears...women driving sports cars.

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Thursday, 21 November 2013

The Great Evil of Entertainment

For a long time, I have been pondering the effect of too much entertainment in the Western cultures. I cannot 
speak of other cultures, but it is clear to me that the preoccupation with sports, movies, computer games, and 
other forms of entertainment cause a blindness to the growth of the spiritual life not only among youth, but those of middle age and elderly people.

The seeking of entertainment destroys several aspects of the pursuit of the spiritual life.

I hope my readers can see through these problems and be honest with themselves concerning the amount of time 
and money which is spent on entertainment.

Bread and circuses killed the Roman Empire, as entertainment became more important that work or the interior life.

People think they need entertainment weekly, even daily. They think they need entertainment.

Now, there are novels and movies which teach morals and may be helpful for people to understand the spiritual life 
and the need for redemption in humanity. We all know these great books and some of the movies which have been made from them.

However, entertainment takes us away from the real reason we are here, to become holy, to gain salvation, to 
become one with Christ and to lead others to Christ.

We are addicted to entertainment, which feeds the passive part of us which should used for meditation and contemplative prayer.

I have shared on this blog the great insight of Thomas Merton on the biggest danger of television-that the passivity which one approaches tv is the aspect, the gift of the mind and soul for passive prayer. The television takes over 
this part of the human soul and mind and perverts the natural course of learning to be passive in the Presence of 

"I am certainly no judge of television, since I have never watched it. All I know is that there is a sufficiently general agreement, among men whose judgment I respect, that commercial television is degraded, meretricious and 
absurd. Certainly it would seem that TV could become a kind of unnatural surrogate for contemplation: a 
completely inert subjection to vulgar images, a descent to a sub-natural passivity rather than an ascent to a 
supremely active passivity in understanding and love. It would seem that television should be used with extreme 
care and discrimination by anyone who might hope to take interior life seriously." (86) Seeds of Contemplation

Think of this--that the capacity for contemplation, the capacity which God created in each person for an intimate relationship with Him, has been perverted by television and other passive forms of entertainment.

God created us for Himself, and we must protect our imaginations, minds, souls, bodies from the pollution of false ideals which flood into us through all types of entertainment.

But, more than that, the actual act of passivity, the interaction of the passive and the soul, is being destroyed 
by this incursion into a part of us created by God to bring us into union with Him.

I want you to ask yourself a few honest questions today.

How much time do I spend on entertainment per week?

How much time do I prepare for going or engaging in entertainment?

How much time do I spend in prayer, learning to be passive before God in order to be purified and to receive His 

Do I clutter my imagination and my soul with too many statistics, too many games, too many hours of 

Do I understand that the greatest stress release is actually prayer and not entertainment?

Does the entertainment I am involved with bring me closer to God, or take me away from God?

Am I willing to give up entertainment in order to become a saint?

Who are these people who do these things?

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Tuesday, 17 September 2013

Humility is Self-Knowledge

I taught for many, many years. I taught the creme de la creme at Notre Dame and Bristol as well as 
at risk students. I loved my students and enjoyed teaching to the very last day, late in December, 2010.
I was teaching three classes that last semester at two different campuses. In one of the classes, I had at risk students. These were students who were coming from families in which no one has been to college before, 
and there were special needs. Sometimes these students had a history of failures, and this was their last chance 
to pass core courses. Sometimes they were coming out of drug addictions, or abusive families.

In that class, there was a young woman 
who was struggling from day one. Despite 
tutoring and time management help, she 
could not keep up with the work. Her work 
was consistently substandard. She just 
could not manage the level and demands 
of the course.

One day, I called her aside. She was very upset at yet another failed paper. She was beside herself, as nothing, 
not extra attention or tutoring had helped. 
She was an unhappy person. I said to her, 

"This course is too hard for you. Why are you in nursing, which demands this course? How are you doing in your 
other courses?"  She told me all the courses required for nursing were too hard for her. She was failing three 
classes. She told me that her college counselor and her family wanted her to be a nurse.

"What do you want to do?" I asked her. She looked at me surprised. "I want to work in a pre-school and be a 
teacher's assistant. That is what I really want to do, work with little children."

I told her that she should do what she wanted to do, what was on her heart. She told me that people wanted her to make more money, get a better, higher degree.

"You cannot do that, " I told her, knowing that she had neither the talents nor will for a more rigorous set of courses. "You are a wonderful person and you do not have to prove yourself to anyone. You can be and do what is in your heart," I said.

The young woman began to cry, "No one has ever talked to 
me like this before," she said. "No one has asked me what I wanted to do and what I could do. I felt inferior and that I had 
to do these hard things. No one has told me I was worth anything."

I told her to go down to the academic counselor's office and change majors. Her whole face lit up. It was as if a heavy 
burden had left her.

"You will be a good and happy person no matter what you do, but you must be who you are."  I said.

She was so thankful, I could hardly keep from tears myself.

She was trying to be something she was not made to be. She was trying to please others and meet others expectations. 
She was not allowed to be honest with herself.

She needed permission to be herself.

Once it dawned on her that being a teacher's assistant was not only acceptable, but a good course for her to follow, she changed from a sad person into one with hope in her face. She knew what she was capable of doing, and I 
did as well.

I am sure she is happy being the person God created her to be.

Pretending to be something else than what one is created to be may be pride. It may be that no one has allowed one to be second best instead of the best. It could be that no one has touched the inner dreams, but only made someone else into another's own image and likeness. Parents do this. Some spouses do this.

Humility is self-knowledge. It is also freedom. This young woman was happy to be herself, and she was happy to be allowed to be herself. How many young people are forced into the image and likeness of their parents, instead of the parent really seeing who the child is and what talents 
God has given that person?

Affirmation cannot be imposed, but comes from humility-the humility of a student, a parent, even a teacher.

When we are honest about who we are, the talents 
given to us, the small things God has asked us to do, 
we shall not only be happier, but spread that 
happiness to others.

I have seen many young people ruined by their 
parents' expectations. I have heard the pain in their 
voices when they told me that their parents would 
pay for medical school, but not for something less, 
and they did not want to be doctors.

The tyranny of a parent's expectations can kill real talents. I know a man who is a very gifted artist. But, 
his family insisted that he would go into the family line of engineering. This man has never been happy with himself, 
or his role in society. He did not have the courage to buck the trend, to say, "This is who I am, a painter, not an engineer."

It is the duty of parents to pray and ask God to reveal the gifts of their children and then to cooperate with God in developing those gifts. Sometimes, there is too much family pride to admit that a daughter really wants to be a 
lowly (as her parents thought) teacher's assistant, and is made by God to work with pre-schoolers. Does it matter?

Being a parent is hard. One must be alert. One must be humble.

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