The same syndrome that can affect men who become Peter Pans has affected women.
Now, the women in my generation tend to be strong and independent. We were raised that way, to do something for others in families and in the world. All my closest female friends have amazing gifts and talents, plus children (grown up, mostly) and strong prayer lives.
The Baby-Boomers were not spoiled and we had to earn praise. Most of us grew up in families where we had to share and we escaped being "princesses".
Along came a generation of smaller families owing to contraception and the entitlement mentality. Disney brainwashed millions of girls into thinking "someday my prince will come" and deliver then from the boredom of materialism and consumerism. But, the consumerism morphed.
I have a list of steps on "how to create a Peter Pan". Here is how to create a Peter Pam.
1) Stifle and overprotect the girl so that she never has time to develop into her own self.
2) Buy her love, so that she will expect things for the rest of her life.
3) Constantly give her what she wants, never deny her and spoil her.
4) Do not let her do chores, like dishes, laundry, cooking, sewing. Make her think housework is beneath her.
5) Make her hate children by passing on your own hatred of children.
6) Make her totally dependent on men by teaching her to be a sex object.
7) Let her use her power of manipulation unbridled.
8) Forget she has a soul and a brain.
9) Make her want to remain a little girl by creating fear and cowardice in her being. Never let her make mistakes.
10) Ignore her real needs, like discipline, and guidance, especially from dad.
11) Let her date too young and too often, and do not pay attention to whom she is dating.
12) Be friends with your daughter and not parents.
Dearest Mother, today lead me to Jesus.
Open doors which sin and weakness have shut.
Our Lady of Fatima, give us hope.
Our Lady of Lourdes, give us healing.
Our Lady of Knock, give us peace.
Our Lady of Carafa, give us love.
Our Lady, Virgo Potens, give us strength.
Our Lady of Sorrows, give us patience.
Our Lady of Guadelupe, give us life.
Our Lady of Good Help, give us our daily needs.
Our Lady of Kibeho, give us discernment.
Our Lady of Akita, give us obedient hearts.
Our Lady of Walsingham, give us purity.
Our Lady of Beauraing, give us the gift of prayer. Our Lady of Banneux, give us faith in poverty. Our Lady of Betania, give us honor for the Eucharist Our Lady of Syracuse, give us holy families. http://campus.udayton.edu/mary/resources/aprtable.html
I have thought for many years that events and personal happenings in my life have been prophetic. In other words, I have experienced years before others what the Church had experienced in recent times and what more and more Catholics will experience.
Those who have known me for a long time have noted this as well.
Therefore, when I am "going through something", I stand back and reflect that events may not be merely for me personally to ponder, as part of purification, for example, but for the larger Church.
Why this is so may only be answered by the fact that I love the Church so much and have most of my life.
The odd things which have happened in my life since late October of last year are coming to a head. Because of circumstances, I was plunked back in the Midwest without me planning such. In six months, I have not been able to find a job which will pay for rent, transportation, and food.
I temporarily was teaching a delightful student, but that is over. I have not found permanent housing.
This situation is now at a crisis point. How one makes decisions must be based on the information one has at any given time.
I shall give some details and then share what I think the Church will experience, soon.
First of all, I spent yesterday on the phone calling homeless shelters for women. These are all full, except for one which has a really dumb rule which excluded me. This is a rule that one must be living in the city where one applies, which means that one cannot have moved about in friends' houses outside this particular city.
Second, I phoned several convents and monasteries and none could help me. None.
Third, I phoned several friends, including one with a rosary group to find out if someone had a room to rent.
None do for very good reasons-almost all my friends about my age have adult children now living at home. Amazing, and some have more than one adult child living at home.
The upshot is that I may end up in a tent. And, I need to be somewhere without asthmatic triggers.
So, at three in the morning, I am thinking, as I hear coyotes howling in the next farm and a large deer snorting in the dark under my window, that many in the Church will become displaced persons.
Once the persecution starts, people will lose jobs. I have lost jobs for being truly Catholic. Do not kid yourselves, if you are a member of the Church Militant, you will bear the scars of war.
If you are not fighting, you will be secure, but at a price.
Someone may not understand the tent cities of the unemployed and homeless in Florida. I do.
Anyone of us can have circumstances which cause one to be extremely poor. At least, I am not in any debt, praise God. And, I try to help my seminarian son is small ways, as he has needs as well. Americans have no clue how poor the Church in Europe really is. The vast majority of Catholics in Europe do not tithe, and people do not give donations to individual sems. There is an anti-clericism which hinders charity.
In America, Catholics are simply not geared up to help people who fall outside the norms of family life or steady employment.
We are not organized, as too many Catholics have settled for government programs instead of planning on charity.
People, government programs not only are limited, but limit.
Remember, there is social engineering behind all these situations I am describing.
Rules and bureaucracy create barriers and mind-sets. A woman spoke with me for fifteen minutes before telling me I do not qualify because I have not lived in that particular city for so many months. Crazy. And, no one cares that I pay for cell phone minutes instead of other necessities. Americans are so spoiled, that they lack imagination.
My parish priest even went to two parish councils, (he has four parishes), to see if they would rent out empty rectories or empty rooms. His efforts failed. People cannot think outside the box. They do not want to get involved because poverty and homelessness are too scary to face. I remind them of what could happen.
Just wait. When the punishment for abortion and ssm comes to America, all will be effected.
I am the bellwether.
In the meantime, I am open to working and living anywhere. Perhaps someone has a lead.