A long time ago, I wrote in the perfection series about detachment.
When one truly becomes detached from one's own desires and no longer prefers something to something else, one can finally hear God.
People ask me, "How can I hear God." I answer, "Become totally detached from everything."
In fact, imperfect love can be a distraction and is a sign of the lack of detachment. One can only truly love a person when one loves that person for the sake of Christ. One has to become detached from affections. One reason why so many marriages fail is the lack of detachment which allows one to love the other in the marriage freely.
This scares people, as they think that detachment means unlove. On the contrary, one is capable of real love, sacrificial love once one is detached. One loves more like God loves.
Too often, people cannot discern, (see my series on discerment), because they are too attached to people, things, places.
How can one know God's Will if one cannot determine what is from God and what is from the flesh, the world, or the devil? One learns how to determine God's working in one's life through detachment.
I write this for four men who are friends of mine and who are struggling with detachment. Not all of them read this blog, but I pray for them and ask that you do as well. They do not mind me referring to them in a general way, as it will help other men discern reality in their lives. These men are called to move on in their faith in a huge and demanding way. Without detachment, they cannot go on to the next stage of holiness to which God is calling them.
The same is true for each one of us. Without detachment even from our own desires, one cannot see what it is that God desires for our lives.
We must be detached so that we can hear God speaking to us in the quiet of prayer, and in the daily movements of the Holy Spirit in our lives.