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Sunday, 29 July 2012

JonathanCatholic Post on The Protector Male

In my last post, I talked of the importance of culture and religion in developing men, the modern West as to a system encouraging the development of Peter Pans, and the Islamic system as to a system that prompts the development of men into Predators. Now, however, I would like to focus on the positive male characteristic: the Protector. As Supertradmum has noted often, the Protector is rare in our world today. There are very few of this type of men left, and it is a duty for all men, I feel, to grow by the grace of God into a Protector and bring good to the world. I had the wonderful opportunity in my life of knowing a Protector, and it is from this experience that I would like to flesh out an image of this type of man, as a goal to work toward, as it is for me, or as a filter to discern other men by.
The man that I knew and loved is my great-uncle, now quite elderly. I have not had many years with him, but I still have gotten quite the impression of him, and when I was a child my mother would tell me stories about him. He grew up in a good, Christian home, of Norwegian descent and in a small town. Born of two very devout Christians, he was raised with the values of hard work, duty, virtue, honor, and integrity. He lived them out throughout his life, marrying and having three children, and raising them to love God and neighbor. All three model him to this day, and are good people with their own children, and grandchildren. He is the type of man who always worked hard and reaped the benefit of this work by always having more than enough money for a comfortable life. He is the type of man who would walk up to a family member he hadn’t seen in many years, and say to him, “I expect great things of you,” as he did for me when I was young. He is the type of man who has shepherded and been the strength of his wife for twelve and going on thirteen years, through the throes of Alzheimers, visiting her every day to feed her, pray with her, and be with her. He is the type of man who spontaneously and generously gives money to family and friends for a meal or for ice cream, as he did with his young nieces and nephews, and would help anyone in need at any time. He is to this day a pillar and a foundation of his family, a patriarch, and an intercessor, living to see his great-grandchildren growing strong in Christ and supporting generations of people under him like rings on such a great family tree. This is my dream, and this is the type of life that is well-lived as a man. He isn’t perfect, but he models the devout Christian life of a Protector, filled with virtue and duty. He is an inspiration to me, and hopefully he is to you as well, as we all find our way to more fully fit, as a key in a lock, into that place in Christ’s Sacred Heart carved out for us from eternity. JonathanCatholic


New Sister said...

During and since my tour in Afghanistan, I have known and heard of many protector males whose commonplace bravery and sacrifice are ignored by the media. I wonder why - is it due to the influence of militant feminism which seeks to denegrate manhood at every occasion possible?
There are men in United States Armed Forces who show themselves willing, on a daily basis, to die in carrying out their duties, and for each other. Just recently (in the past 6 months), there is the example of one of our beautiful young Soldiers in Kandahar that no one has heard of, I'm quite sure. A convoy of armored vehicles was ripping down a road at high speed (movements are done at high speed and wide intervals as a safety measure against attacks). A flock of Afghan children were darting before the convoy, grasping for brass cartridges /scrap metal as eagerly as they could (this is common, I assume for re-sale). As the convoy became dangerously close and some children kept ignoring commands to keep clear, one of our Soldiers dove into the road to keep a child from being hit, and was himself run over and killed in the process. This happened while mobs of Afghans continued to protest and attack US Forces over the Qu'ran burning incident. That received media coverage. The heroism of this un-named Protector Male did not.
Please remember and pray for our tremendous heros in the Armed Forces, both fallen and injured. This war has about a 10:1 ratio of injured for every KIA. Pray also for the families whose loss and sacrifice for our Nation is beyond human understanding.

JonathanCatholic said...

Thank you for your comment, NS... I will indeed continue praying for thes unsung heroes and the sacrifices they make. Thank you for calling attention to all the forgotten men who willingly risk life and limb to protect others in the armed forces.

Supertradmum said...

Mike Cliffson, you comments were varied and a bit too graphic for this blog. I am answering you on three points. First, this is a Catholic blog addressing Catholic and some Protestant men. I do not write necessarily for those who are not already dedicated to Christ The comments are for those in the pew. And, statisics reflect Catholic men as well.

Two, none of the women I know who are Catholic singles, including myself, are feminists. That argument cannot be applied to Catholic men, as again, any Catholic man has access to good Catholic teaching with regard to male and female relationship. Why should Catholic men blame feminism when there a thousands of trad women who do not agree with that world view? False argument.

Lastly, male is a perfectly sound word. JonathanCatholic is a male and he can chose his words as well. I have written on boys on this blog many times. Just type it in the search box.

Mike Cliffson said...

I agree not on many points, but as you will:
Nonetheless , I think my last point , the root of all the others, labour it as you may have already on posts I have not seen , remains, since we all live IN this world, and have the daily combat of not being OF it: I think it is even statistically observable in society that , without Christ, you don't get men who ARE men.
Men, weak sinners all, who are ,through and in Chrst ,prepared to risk their lives and die for others.
Which dying may be immediate , or , pace Origines(Invitation to maryrdom), daily.

Mike Cliffson said...

Oh Ps , I automatically gave the Spanish form of the greek father, Origen in English,amazon has both, and says Exhortation not invitation.
A bit chewy to read, let alone put into practice. " Exhortation to Martyrdom by Origen, Origenes "
Often published together with other works of his, such as "on Prayer".
The daily martyrdom idea fits a case the post gave,which resonated,as I have a close family example too, of an older man's daily caring.

newguy40 said...

I enjoyed the post. This is a very important topic and I am looking forward to reading more on this subject here.

There is a great deal that I could say on this subject. I've been married only once to the same wonderful woman for 23 years with two boys (well.... men really at 17 and 19 YO). And, the greatest need for myself and my sons is a strong supportive masculine Christian community. It simply doesn't exist locally here on the West coast where we live. The culture is a neo pagan nightmare. And, at the top of the list of needs is good strong Priests and Religious who are loyal to the Holy Father and are not afraid to let everyone know that they love the Pope and the Holy Mother of God. In fact, to preach of the Immaculate Conception.

As men we have to rely on St Joseph. We have to always remember what was said his ancestor. "Go to Joseph". I"ve have had a great advocate in family and child rearing issues by frequent recourse to St Joseph. Now, THERE was a protector par excellence.

Supertradmum said...

newguy40, type men in the search bar for more articles on the same on this blog