Talk about generation gaps. The construction of my society growing up is gone, gone, gone. From education to social manners, to identity as a Catholic sub-culture, we had a security in knowing who we were and where we were going.
Talking with Generation Millennials, I have realized over the past few years that what I had for coursework in 7th and 8th grade they had in high school and what I had in high school they have in college or university. What I had in college or university, they get in graduate school.
Depressing. When I was in high school, schools were divided into "terminal degree" high schools and "college preparatory schools". In the second grouping, the high schools were run on three tracks, and students were placed in this tracking according to their interests and abilities. Terminal degree high schools actually taught a skill, such as welding, accounting or business skills, and things where a student could walk out the door and get a job immediately.
In those days, we knew that people were not created the same. I do not have my high school curriculum in front of me, but it would be similar to this. This would be the top layer, or third track of the college prep school. All girls, by the way----
First year-freshman year
Civics (general and American)
World History first semester; European History second semester
Algebra I and possibly II
English Literature-first semester general; second Shakespeare
Religion-Old Testament first semester; New Testament Second
Extra-Curricular Studies, such as journalism, choir, art
Sport and Gym Class
American History first adn second semester; America Government in more detail second as option
English Literature-Essays-including 18th century ones; second semester Poetry including Shakespeare's sonnets and Mystical Poets
Composition first semester; speech and debate second
Biology all year
Geometry I and II
Religion-Church History, both semesters, but staring with a sacraments section
Extra-Curricular studies, such as choir, drama, art or journalism or all
Sport and Gym Class
Advanced Math I and II; either Trig or another option independent studies; Algebra II; some in Pre-Calculus
Religion- great Catholic thinkers; world religions
Contemporary History (usually from WWI to present)
Extra-curricular choices again including Drama class, choir or above
Sport and Gym Class
English Literature of the Modern Age-novels and poetry
(Optional Driver Training)
One also took college entrance tests in junior year for applying for scholarships. We had up to four hours of homework per night. Ask my dad.
Independent studies in History
Religion-marriage prep; modern issues such as Vat. II
English Literature-drama and world drama; debate as advanced options
Extra-curricullar again like drama or choir or aboves
Free time to take college courses for credit
Intro to Philosophy
Sport and Gym
We had some choices for sport.I may be forgetting something
. The mathematics classes varied after Geometry. I took Algebra II and my brothers went way ahead of me in Trig, Pre-Calc and Calc. etc. We had options. I was the feature editor of the newspaper and teen editor for the local city newspaper. I did almost everything-choir, drama, etc. Yes, we had uniforms very similar to those below except we had to wear black or brown shoes---
and no, I was not a cheerleader.
We were allowed to seek excellence.
Ah, social skills.
For our first dances, we had little booklets on which to write who was dancing which dance with us. They had little ribbons so that we could wear them around our wrist and there is a photo of a young girl with one. We called them dance cards. In my Grandmothers' days, these were silver and gold.
This custom is where the phrases, "pencil me in" comes from....and "my dance card is full."
We had formal and informal dances. We had teas. We had picnics which were planned. We did not have much fast-food. Pizza Hut
opened in my home town when I was 16. That was where I went on my first date, with the neighbour boy and his friend who tagged along. I remember exactly what I wore-a white top with large black polka dots and a black skirt; and the date: January 1, 1965. I turned 16 two days later. My parents had known the parents of that boy since before I was born, and we played together even as toddlers. Still, permission had to be sought and granted. That was how the culture was disciplined and set. It was all very comforting. There was no stress as most people in those stratifications has so much in common to make such socializing relaxed. And, we had no idea about sex. We could just be ourselves, and learn to use our manners, and wait.
Manners helped us, as well as the truly Christian character of the culture at the time.
The list, taken from the website below, is what we learned naturally in all of these events. We even learned sports etiquette. We went roller skating and ice skating. We played foursomes in tennis. We did not go shopping for fun. That was not done then. One shopped with one's mom. Two of my girls friends had to go shopping with their dad, as he had to approve their clothes. He was an Italian dad. My dad would not be caught dead in a ladies' shop. Good thing, too.
- First impressions
- Greeting and shaking hands
- Paying and receiving compliments
- Telephone manners
- Family dining
- Table manners
- Polite conversation
- When to rise
- Doors and coats
- Sports etiquette
- Formal dining
- Party courtesies
- Hosting a party
- Receiving lines
- Eating unusual foods
- Instructional dinners
- Promise keeping
- Handling peer pressure
All the dances had adults present: the nuns and our parents were chaperones. Sometimes the priests came for a short while. All the parents knew all the other parents in your track, mostly. Dating was strictly controlled by parents. Boys were very polite. My dad reminds me of the Friday night I had one young man at the front day, one at the back door, and one on the phone. I was not that
popular. I had a pink Princess phone and a turquoise blue transistor radio with a matching leather case--trendy. We had plays, concerts, football, basketball, track, wrestling, and all kinds of things. We had cotillions to go to and strict rules on dating regarding times and frequency. We did things in groups. We sang when we went out in groups. We dated in order to find a mate. Mom and Dad were part of the process of dating.